Tuesday, March 20, 2018

Blog post #3

“I had had enough. I needed to make a change.” Fear: Beneath the Façade
This reading talks about how men are not allowed to be or show fear.  Especially in today’s culture it is very much apparent that boys are taught at an early age you are supposed to be strong, protective, show no weakness.  Boys are raise to bring home the money in family situation, and to make rules.  Whereas, girls are raise to be more sensitive caring and nurturing.  With girl’s emotions are expected and staying at home caring for the house and children is an unspoken rule.  In a study it was mentioned that when growing up you boys are encouraged to go and explore, to become detached from their parents.  Whereas, with girls are encouraged to stay in close proximities to their parents.
This has a great impact on how men view themselves.  Their Identities.  If at a young age they struggle with some of theses things yet are constantly getting negative feedback and told they should be this way it can cause a lot of damage.  Insecurity, a lack of confidence, and even a lack of sensitivities towards others feelings and emotions.  Then begs the question what kind of husbands or father do these boys become?  It’s the cycle of socialization.  Born into a family, raise a certain way, growing up with those values and standards that are then passed on to their families and children, witch then are passed on from there.
This reading kind of made me sad, who do we have such a strong and unchanging thought of how a man should act and be?  Why does there have to be such a negative response if they do not fit into the mold that society wants them to fit.  Then if they don’t they are looked down upon, belittled, and told (in more words then not) that they are worthless.  Again, tearing up their identity and how they interact with society in general.  

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