After
taking multiple classes on media and ethics including this class about
communication and culture, it is sometimes hard to face the fact that media
controls the world. It has the ability to sway whomever, whenever. It feels
like they know all our insecurities and pry upon them to sell us on just about
anything. The unfortunate thing is that they created these insecurities in all of
us. Beauty is being skinny and blonde with big boobs. Men must be emotionless,
strong over 6 foot. The list goes on for stereotypes and the categories that
each of us fall into.
After reading Black Girl Dangerous, I decided to choose a phrase because I couldn’t
pick just one sentence from it. Mia McKenzie states that the 4th way
to not be an ally is that you “don’t see race/gender/disability/etc., she also
notes that “If your ability to respects someone’s right to exist requires pretending
that they are just like you, that’s a problem. We are not all the same. And
things like race, gender, disability, etc. are exactly the kinds of things that
shape our lives and our experiences and makes us different from one another.
Being different is not the problem.” I personally believe this has a lot of
truth, and I myself have fallen victim many times. I have always felt and been
taught that everyone should be treated with respect, which is true, but it doesn’t
mean that our differences have to be pushed aside and pretend to be forgotten.
Sometimes I would go out of my way to make it a point that I am welcoming of
everyone race, gender, religion I wasn’t pretending to be welcoming but I was ignoring
the fact that we are all different and that’s okay. I had never thought of it
in that way before. That everyone in their own way is unique and our gender,
race etc. are our unique stories of how we got to this point right here and by pretending
were not different is not helping it’s just highlighting how much we are and
how much I try to hide that. I love when she says
being different is not the problem because it’s not, it’s the way society has
made us feel about being different that isolates us from others that is the
problem.
I have already mentioned in a previous blog about a great
example of media and how they portray certain people is Miss Representation. I
think we could make a million movies on different races, gender, religions and
how they are all misrepresented. I think it’s sad how we
can’t see others for their unique qualities and abilities and for the stories all our
differences share. It’s unfortunate that we
have been led to make our differences so noticeable that it has led to terror
and destruction throughout our world. I love my background and the stories from
my grandfather coming from Yugoslavia I am proud to say I have Hispanic decent but
not everyone feels like they can be proud of that because they’re considered
different. Not everyone can be proud and open. Culturally here in America the “melting pot” of the world, home of the free its crazy to think
after all this time people can still live in fear because of our differences. Fear of not
speaking up, not dressing how you feel best, not speaking your native language,
all fears of not wanting to stick out and be different.
I think a great example
of this currently is the protest over the national anthem. I have my own
opinions about it and how I feel but I recently watched a video, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZv-52xh2pc,
with Barack Obama and his feeling and Donald Trump and his feeling in regards
to the protest and I think it perfectly aligns with the statement from
McKenzie. Obama talks about how we as a country need to recognize people’s
difference but in doing so we need to understand why and truly educate
ourselves, before dividing as a country. We don’t need to agree, but just
understand that we all grew up differently and that it is their right to be
able to say how you feel, even if it offends the rest of us. It’s a hard pill
to swallow for some but I’ve also lived as a white female in a well-off family
my entire life and am forever grateful to the people who protect me from living
safely in my bubble. Some kids weren’t given this experience and unfortunately don’t
see the world the same way I do but it’s what has shaped all of our lives, experiences
and truly what gives us different outlooks on life, gender, race, and religion.
A great example of this is a YouTube video about privilege, http://www.ntd.tv/inspiring/life/crazily-viral-video-showing-privilege-will-make-cry.html.
After watching this video, it made me really think about how different we all
see the world and the country we live in. Even if we lived in the same
neighborhood. Not seeing color, race or disability doesn’t help. It just
separates us more. I wish there was a solution to this problem because after
watching this video, it was eye opening to how I shelter myself and my
feelings. I’ve always tried not to see our differences but I hope to go forward
I recognize the difference and embrace it.