Compassionate Critical Listing

“I am tired of feeling that my words were given space, but they might as well have not been said because they didn’t get built upon or incorporated into the conversation.” (Russo, 36)

Looking at this statement by its self opens a door for communication and reflection. I think that most everyone was had this experience at some point in their life. As children we are sometimes given the opportunity to talk about something that is important to us but it is brushed off by adults who are concerned with other “bigger” issues. It is not limited to children, as adults, it can happen with a partner, friend, colleges, or a stranger. That being said, we are able to look at this in different contexts and reflect on our own listening skills. There is a lot more to listing then just hearing what someone says.

There is a non-profit group that is called The Compassionate Listening Project. They train people around the world from all sides of the debate to sit and listen to each other. They do this so that everyone has an opportunity to be heard. One of the quotes on their site says, “God gave us two ears and one month. We should listen twice as much as we speak.” I have heard many different variations of this and it always rings true for me.

Taking the time to learn about others viewpoints allows us all be heard. We may not always agree or like what the other person has to say at the of the day. However, we will have a better understanding of those around us.

Our book has a section that is designated to this topic. On pages 48-49 Warren and Fassett have a list of questions to help you learn and focus on your listing.

http://www.compassionatelistening.org/